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heavenly grief's avatar

Loved the part when you spoke on listening to your intuition. I’ve been working on honoring that part of myself and since it doesn’t come naturally, it takes a lot of risk sometimes to finally listen to it and then honor it.

Mostly Dating's avatar

You’re so right it can take a lot of trust in yourself to listen to your intuition. I’ve definitely found that that trust grows with time the more I do listen to myself 💕

Ben The Breakup Therapist's avatar

Loved this, the whole thing. Curious how you came to that framing.

I’m a therapist writing a book on breakups— subscribed and excited to read more.

Mostly Dating's avatar

Thank you for reading and subscribing! AND thank you for writing a book about breakups—it's going to help so many people!! In terms of how I came to that framing, just from personal experience combined with questions I've been asked. Definitely something I know so many people struggle with. It can be scary to end a relationship in any case, but especially when there's no clear black and white reason.

BackandBetter's avatar

This list is the truth! I am writing it down and keeping it in my pocket for when time travel becomes real. 2013 Me needs to read this.

Mostly Dating's avatar

Haha I am with you! The whole time I wrote this I was thinking of my 2016 self

Petrina Lillian's avatar

While not necessarily the case, some of those 14 items could signal the person who feels like something isn’t right could be emotionally unavailable. I was specifically thinking of 2,6,7,8,9, and 10. The lack of EA itself could be the thing that is off/not right in how the person is feeling and not necessarily the relationship.

Mostly Dating's avatar

Totally! I just did a podcast episode about EA and emotional maturity. I do think the relationship isn’t going to be right though if the person isn’t emotionally available and they’re not actively aware and working on it